THE 12 pillars
CREATE A FRAMEWORK TO BE A CONFIDENT, successful parent everyday with these pillars:
OCTOBER
Building Meaningful Connection
Real connection is foundational to every parent/child relationship, but it doesn’t happen by accident. It takes deliberate, intentional action that maintains bonds during good times and bad.
This pillar will provide important mindsets and useful strategies to help parents communicate, relate, and connect in meaningful ways at every age and stage.
NOVEMBER
Values-Driven Parenting
Understanding your own personal values and living in alignment with them is a game changer when it comes to parenting. This knowledge will increase your confidence, allow you to prioritize what matters most, and ditch the guilt that comes so easily when values are unclear.
This pillar will help you discover your own values, figure out what living them looks like, and find ways to stay true to them while honoring the values of others.
DECEMBER
Structure That Serves
Boundaries are not always fun, but they are crucial when it comes to raising kids who feel secure and safe. When done well, boundaries increase love and connection by providing the consistency, predictability, and structure that every kid needs to feel free to become their true selves.
This pillar will help you understand what types of structure are most necessary in your home and how to implement those boundaries in a way that serves the entire family.
JANUARY
Merging Justice and Mercy
The best kind of parenting keeps justice and mercy part of every interaction. It’s an intentional effort to maintain connection while providing the structure that is so necessary for kids to thrive.
This pillar will shift your mindset when it comes to parenting. It will allow you to be your best self and improve relationships even during hard conversations and difficult moments. It will allow you to be both a consistent and kind parent at the same time.
FEBRUARY
Scaffolding for Success
There is a happy medium between a helicopter parent and one who doesn’t care at all, and scaffolding is the secret. When you use scaffolding as a parenting strategy, you offer your child their best chance at both independence and success by preparing and guiding them through each new decision and stage.
This pillar will help you identify where you can let go a little more and where your child could use extra guidance.
MARCH
Building Inner Confidence
Building confidence in our kids isn’t as easy as telling them how great they are over and over again. Confidence has to come from the inside. It increases when doing hard things, growing resilience, and living with character. Parents play a huge role in fostering confidence in their children.
This pillar will give you proven strategies and techniques that you can use in your own home. This is an area where small shifts yield big results.
APRIL
Leading with Compassion
When you see your kids, yourself, other kids, and other parents with compassion your satisfaction and joy in your own parenting and purpose increases exponentially. It makes parenting less of a chore and more of a privilege.
This pillar will create important shifts in your outlook that will allow you to parent in a way that feels optimistic, hopeful, and kind to everyone involved.
MAY
Chasing the Good
We often find what we are looking for, and when you chase the good, good things follow. Focusing on seeing the best in others, in our situations, and doing more of the things that make you happy, completely changes the parenting experience.
This pillar will provide strategies for seeing, saying, and being the good. It will provide a template for your kids to also live a life full abundance and positive energy.
JUNE
Custom-Fit Parenting
No two parents are the same, and no two kids are the same. Parenting is a daily journey of reinvention which can be both exhausting and exciting. The sooner we adapt to individualized techniques instead of buying into a one size fits all, the better our relationships can be.
This pillar will help you identify what strategies and styles work best for each child and each parent, and give you the confidence to trust your own intuition and intention.
JULY
FINDING THE FUN
As kids enter the teen years, parents often become exceptionally serious because there is so much on the line. This very real weight must be balanced with lightness, fun, laughter and the willingness to add playfulness to these more mature relationships.
This pillar will help you find reasons and ways to lighten up and connect over things that teens and young adults find important, exciting, and bonding.
AUGUST
LONG-GAME PARENTING
None of us are going to get things right all the time, which is why relentless repair is so crucial. Showing your kids how to apologize, self-evaluate, and change course, through example, is foundational for happy, long term relationships.
In this pillar, you will learn what to do when you’ve messed up, how to handle really difficult conversations, and how to stay open and honest in appropriate ways.
SEPTEMBER
PURPOSE BEYOND OUTCOMES
There are no guarantees in parenting, which is why it is crucial to not base our happiness or satisfaction wholly on our kids’ choices. Understanding how to have purpose and be personally ok, even when parenting isn’t going well is a skill worth developing.
In this pillar, you will learn how to define yourself beyond your role as parent and how to find joy and satisfaction in the unexpected.